Forgiveness has been a process, key to healing (mostly forgiving MYSELF), but it took time and an approach to forgiveness that was not more control. Which the religious admonition often is. It DELAYED my ability to forgive (and find that peace) – so much crap to unload and unlearn first. If you know someone who is or was abused, and is being told this “forgive or you won’t be forgiven” stuff by church or “friends,” tell them to LEAVE, NOW. The suffering, separation, fear, loneliness they will experience by staying is much worse. They can find waay healthier supports elsewhere, who can help them heal and learn God’s love, not man’s condemnation.
‘Should’ We Forgive The Psychopath, Narcissist Or Sociopath?